Suami isteri dlm surah an-nisa

Surah al-nisa' ayat 34

Point 1 : apa maksud qawwamun dan mengapa lelaki dipilih menjd qawwam ke atas perempuan.

Qawwam bermakna - org yg bertanggungjawab menjaga kebajikan wanita, mengurus hal-ehwalnya dan mendidik. Jika dlm BM, ia diterjemah sbg pemimpin, kita hanya nmpk seolah-olah men deserve to overpower women. Tapi jika diteliti mksd qawwam, ia bkn hanya hak bg lelaki tp ia adalah kewajipan ke atasnya.

Mengapa tugas ini diletakkan ke atas lelaki?

1- dlm ayat ni, Allah sbt bhw ia adalah kurnia dr Allah. Allah dgn hikmah dan kebijaksanaanNya tlh jdkan bg lelaki itu suatu yg lbh bg perempuan : prophethood, kepimpinan utama, persaksian, jihad, solat jmt dan jemaah dll. X perlu tgk jauh2, tgk tenaga dan kekuatan pn jd.

2- sbb kedua adalah kelbhn ni mereka atas sesuatu yg mereka wajib lakukan iaitu memberi mahar dan nafkah kpd isteri.
*kelbhn ni mereka perolehi  atas sesuatu yg wajib mereka lakukan.
Point 2 dr ayat 34

Siapa wanita yg solehah itu?

1- qanitaat - iaitu yg taat dan patuh pd Allah, Rasul shallallahu alayhi wa sallam dan suami.

2- yg memelihara dirinya, maruahnya, rmh, anak2 dan rahsia suami ketika ketiadaannya.

Kmdn dlm point seterusnya Allah trgkan apa nak buat jika isteri x menepati ciri2 di atas.
Point 3 - apa nak buat kalau isteri nusyuz.

Apa mkna nusyuz? Asal mkna perkataan nasyaza : tmpt yg tinggi di atas bumi. Nusyuz : perbuatan isteri yg melebihi had yg ditetapkan Allah, dan act lbh dr suami.

Lgkah 1 : ingatkan isteri suami mengenai tanggungjawab dan kewajipannya.

Lgkah 2 : meninggalkan tmpt tidurnya, membelakangnya, x berckp dgnnya.

Lgkah 3 : pukul, tp x blh smp mencederakan, x blh guna kayu, x blh kat muka, x blh pukul kt satu tmpt berulang kali. X blh pukul dgn niat utk menyakitkan. Para ulama' kata wpun ia diblhkan tp meninggalkannya adalah lbh baik.

Point 4 (akhir) dr ayat

Kalau dlm proses pemulihan isteri, dia kmbli taat, maka suami kena stop dan jgn lbh2 pd isteri.

Allah juga sbt di akhir ayat, sesungguhnya Allah maha tinggi dan maha besar.

Mksdnya, suami kena beringat bhw kelbhn yg dia ada adalah kurnia dr Allah. Jika dia menzalimi isteri menggunakan kuasa yg Allah beri, maka ingatlah yg Allah itu lbh tinggi dan lbh besar kekuasaanNya dan kedudukanNya dr dia.

P/s: perkongsian dri sis ili

Rintihan Taubat (Adi Sixth Sense) - lirik

Lagu : Rintihan Taubat
Singer : Adi sixth sense

Tiada risau menghimpit jiwa
Tiada resah menyempit dada
Di layar mewah menghitung ganda
Tiada rasa salah dan dosa

Hingga saat bala melanda
Tiada upaya menghalangnya
Semua yang nyata jadi gelita
Dunia terasa sempitnya 

Tuhan.. Ku syukuri..
Nikmat dan petunjuk-Mu
Tuhan.. Ku agungi..Maha keesaan-Mu
Kau beri dunia untuk ke syurga
Ku salah guna untuk ke neraka

Ampunkan aku
Terima taubatku
Ku damba keredhaan-Mu
Mewah sudah ku rasa
Namun hanya untuk dunia
Kan ku mulakan dan utamakan
Untuk ke syurga-Mu pula
Kau tunjuk arah yang nyata
Kau bersih sucikan jiwa
Kau kekalkanlah, abadikannya
Wahai Tuhan Yang Maha Esa.

Ampunkan aku.
Terima taubatku.
Kudamba keredhaan-Mu

Ciri-ciri ahli syurga

Surah al-zariyaat ayat 15 - 19

Allah menceritakan antara ciri2 ahli syurga

- mereka itu sedikit tidurnya pd waktu malam kerana mengerjakan solat

- mereka memohon ampun pd waktu sblm fajar. Kebykn mlm dihbskan dgn solat dan diakhiri dgn memhn ampun sblm subuh.

- mereka mempunyai bhgn khas dr harta mereka utk diberi kpd org miskin yg meminta mahupun yg x meminta.

Salin dari : Ustazah Ummu Abdillah Ili Dalila

Bantuan Ramadhan ke Kedah July 2013

dengan usahasama BAKTI, Bank Negara.


Menyelusuri erti hidup. Miskin dan kaya. Sakit dan sihat. Tua dan Muda. Hina manusia kerana takbur. Lalai manusia kerana bakhil. Astaghfirullah.

Syukur dengan segala nikmat Allah kurniakan. Alhamdulillah.

SOAL JODOH {{Pilihlah jalan baik atau jadilah baik}}

Seseorang menasihatiku. Seorang mukmin itu tidak akan jatuh kedalam lubang yg sama dua kali. Then I found this great article dari Ust Pahrol. Tentang jodoh....

sedikit sedutan....

“Kecantikan seorang wanita tidak sama tafsirannya. Orang budiman dan beriman, menilai kecantikan kepada budi dan akhlak. Pemuja hedonisme dan materialisme hanya fokus kepada kecantikan wajah dan daya tarikan seksual.”

Ketika saya ingin menyampuk, dia menambah lagi, “Cantik juga relatif mengikut keadaan. Jelitawan sekalipun akan nampak hodoh dan membosankan apabila asyik marah-marah dan merampus. Sebaliknya, wanita yang sederhana sahaja wajahnya akan nampak manis apabila sentiasa tersenyum, sedia membantu dan memahami hati suami.”

“Oh, betul juga tu!” kata saya. Teringat betapa ada seorang kenalan yang sering mengeluh tentang isterinya, “Sedap di mata tetapi sakit di hati…”

“Pilihlah jodoh dengan dua cara. Pertama, jadilah orang yang baik. Insya-Allah, kita akan mendapat jodoh yang baik. Kedua, ikutlah pilihan orang yang baik. Orang yang baik akan memilih yang baik untuk jadi pasangan hidup kita.”

sila ke laman ini.. BERCERITA TENTANG JODOH

Allahul Musta'an. Doa dan ikutlah haluan yang betul dalam syariat. Jadilah seorang mukmin dan mukminat, bukan sekadar lelaki dan wanita...

Lidah yang berkata adalah paling dekat  dengan telinganya, mudahan wadah ini menjadi pengajaran buat diriku.

Ya Robbi... Asif laka ya Robbi...

Powerful Tips for the Last 10 Nights

by Tawfique Chowdhury during his lecture in Juz Tabaraak | IIUM Mosque

1. Do not let your 'performance' until now affect your last 10 days. The moment of forgiveness could be today or anytime in the coming days! It is not all lost! If you sincerely wish it could have been better - Chin up and get ready to make it your best yet! Start with a positive, sincere intention!

2. Today, take a little time to read the Tafseer of Surah al-Qadr to understand what actually happens this night! You will feel its power & greatness so much more!

3. Do not wait for the 27th Night to give it your "all". The entire last 10 days should be your target. Stay up each night! Would you want to miss Laylatul Qadr even "by chance"?

4. Do not fall into any innovations/celebrations any masjid or culture might try to promote. Follow the Sunnah! The Prophet (sallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) guided us simply: "Whoever stays up and prays on Laylat al-Qadr out of faith and in the hope of reward, his previous sins will be forgiven.”

5. Memorize and keep asking the dua' taught by Rasulullah (sallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam): Allaahumma innaka ‘afuwwun tuhibb al-‘afwa fa’affu ‘anni (O Allaah, You are forgiving and You love forgiveness, so forgive me).

6. Prepare a short dua' list. Remember this is as awesome as it ever gets for a servant of Allah! The Night of Qadr, of Destiny! Consciously pick each and everything you crucially wish for in this dunya, in your deen, family, and in your aakhirah! Don't forget to include the brothers and sisters around the world who are suffering and in grief!

7. Take brief naps during the day, if possible. Keep your stomach light and sleep as soon as you have prayed 'isha. Do not delay! After a brief nap, refresh yourself and get ready for worship.

8. Don't neglect your family! Rasulullah made it a point to wake up his wives throughout these nights! And yes, your children are not too young to stay up some part of the night - if they can be allowed to play video games or watch TV, they can be inspired to be up atleast for sometime! Prepare them, make them excited, plan some activities for them to do!

9. Look the Part: The way we dress and prepare has a big effect on our psychology. Wear your best, perfume yourself, and feel the energy!

10. Choose a spot, whether in the Masjid or in your home, where you can have peace and solitude. Keep your mushaf, praying mat, and water at hand so that you are not distracted by constantly getting up for this or that.

11. IMP: This is not the night to tweet pics or update FB statuses about how amazing the night is and how you are feeling & worshipping Allah! Let that be a secret between you & your Rabb! So switch off those phones, wifi, laptops and computers. Disconnect with the world, and connect with al-'Afuww!

12. If you find yourself feeling sleepy, vary your acts of worship. Alternate between qiyaam, heartfelt dua'a, reading the Qur'an. Do not spend the night listening to lectures or recitations. Or do it only for a short while when you feel the sleep coming on!

13. Patience is the Key: The last 10 days might be tiring. You might still have work or school. This is the time to bear all that hardship, and keep firm sabr. Think how Allah has blessed you with this tremendous opportunity that might NEVER come again in your life again. If you knew for sure that this was your last ‪#Ramadan‬, if you knew certainly that Jannah was up for grabs, wouldn't you sprint for it no matter what it takes?

14. This is most important: Keep husn adh-dhann bi Allah (good expectations from Allah). When you ask, remember you are asking the Most Generous King. If you hope for the best, He will give you the best. Don't hold back. Trust in Him, pour out your heart in front of Him, and let no doubt, no barrier, no evil thoughts keep you away from ar-Rahman, ar-Raheem!

Thanks to sister Aliya for this sharing. May we enter the Jannah and become a neighbour. Biiznillah. :)

When your heart extremely in pain.....

.....remember that Allah always with you... T_T

Opposite Sex Interactions - Nouman Ali Khan

(I Tell Myself) (OST The Lucky One)

Here the song


Say that I'm changed
Say I'm different
Maybe I finally understand
Say I've let go
Say that it's obvious
I tell myself over and over
And over and over again

I'm ready I'm ready
I'm ready to believe

Tell me I'm strong
Tell me I'm weak
Tell me I'll never, never bend
Tell me I'm fire
Tell me I'm cold
Cold I tell myself over and
Over and over again

I'm ready I'm ready
I'm ready to believe

'Cuz I want to feel my heart
Yes I want to feel my heart
Yeah I want to feel feel feel my heart

So tell me I'm strong
Tell me I'm weak
Tell me I'll never understand
Oh, but I'm ready
I'm ready I'm ready to believe

Real Fact